ADHD Coach for Women. Focused on How It Feels, Not Just How to Manage It.
How many times today have you snapped at someone you love, then spent the next few hours drowning in guilt about it?
Or maybe it wasn't snapping. Maybe you've replayed a conversation four times since lunch, convinced you got it wrong. Or you cancelled plans because you didn't have the energy to be around people, and now you're sat with the guilt of cancelling, knowing it'll be even harder to show up next time.
I know you look like you're managing. You've always looked like you're managing. But I also know that underneath it, you're on edge most of the time, not in crisis, just one more thing away from tipping.
You've probably tried therapy. Self-help books. Boundaries that hold for a while and then don't. Routines that work for a week and fall apart. You've told yourself to be kinder to yourself, and you know that's the right thing to do, you just can't seem to actually feel it.
Most ADHD support out there is all systems, routines, productivity hacks. That's just not where I focus. I'm more interested in what's actually underneath it all, the shame, the overwhelm, the way you're harder on yourself than you'd ever be with anyone else.
I'm Natalie, an ADHD Coach with EMCC accreditation and my own lived experience of late diagnosis. I'm here to help you quieten the noise of overwhelming emotions and negative thinking, so you can feel more calm, connected, and confident. Not by fixing you. By helping you understand yourself.
You've cancelled plans because you didn't have the energy to be around people, then felt worse for cancelling.
You've snapped at someone you love over something small, then spent hours drowning in guilt about it afterwards.
You've replayed a conversation over and over, convinced you got it wrong, said too much, or came across badly.
You've said yes when you meant no, because the anxiety of saying no felt worse than the cost of saying yes.
A tone of voice, a change of plan, or someone being slightly off with you has sent you into a spiral that took hours or days to shake.
You've started something with total commitment and energy, only to lose momentum and struggle to pick it back up.
You've been harder on yourself than you'd ever be with anyone else, assuming you've done something wrong even when you haven't.
You've absorbed someone else's mood and adjusted yourself around it without even realising you were doing it.
You feel on edge most of the time. Not in crisis, but not okay either, like one more thing could tip you over.
You've snapped at someone you love over something small, then spent hours drowning in guilt about it afterwards.
It's the way one difficult moment can linger and grow, how a comment, a look, or a change of plan can tip your whole day and stay with you for hours. It's affecting how you show up: whether you cancel plans, hold back what you actually think, snap at someone you love, or spend the evening replaying something that's already over. You've tried to change it, telling yourself to react less, to let things go, to just be kinder to yourself. But it doesn't work like that, and you never end up feeling calm for longer than a day or two before it all builds up again, leaving you frustrated, exhausted, and quietly ashamed.
I've been there too, and I now help women understand this pattern properly, so they can work with how their brain actually works instead of constantly fighting against it.
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Got more than one finger down?
Then it's probably not just a one off 'bad day'...
Be honest. If youβre left with any less than 10 fingers held up, you deserve better.
Put a Finger Down: The Emotional Side of ADHD Edition
Free Resources β Coming Soon
I'm currently building a little library of free resources on the emotional side of ADHD: shame, rejection sensitive dysphoria, people pleasing, masking, and the other patterns that keep coming up in my work with women.
Nothing here yet, but it's genuinely on its way. Pop your email below and I'll let you know the moment each one's ready, plus you'll get my weekly emails: honest thoughts on the emotional side of ADHD, the odd overshare, and whatever's actually going on in my world that week (some weeks that's a client breakthrough, some weeks it's the puppy destroying something).
LET ME KNOW WHEN THEY'RE READY
Why Meβ¦
I understand the exhaustion of masking, the guilt after people pleasing, the shame that creeps in after an off day, because I've lived all of it myself. It can show up in so many ways, relationships, career, confidence, and for me, body image struggles were part of that picture too. I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2025, but I experienced all of it for as far back as I can remember. That means I'm not guessing at what you're describing. I've felt it, and it shapes how I listen and what I notice, even when you can't quite put it into words yourself.
But it's not just my own story I bring to the table. I've got a psychology degree, a master's, an advanced ADHD coaching qualification, and EMCC accreditation behind me too, alongside years spent working with hundreds of women on exactly these patterns. And honestly, I'm still learning, about my clients and about myself, because none of us are ever really finished figuring ourselves out.
My approach is warm, honest, and psychology-informed. No toxic positivity. No lists of things to try. I help you understand what's actually going on underneath, so the changes you make are real and built around who you actually are, not who you think you should be.
Just to be upfront, I'm not a therapist, and I'd never pretend to be one. If what you actually need is therapy, I'll tell you straight. What I do is coaching, so we're looking at the here and now, understanding your patterns, and actually building tools that shift them.
Rachel
Don't just take my word for it...
Natalie showed great passion, patience and perseverance during the time we worked together. I feel that I have learnt a lot about ADHD and have a great toolkit. Thanks Natalie, an absolute pleasure working with you, I will use the tools you taught me for the rest of my life.
kari
Natalie was a delight to work with. She made the sessions both fun and engaging and worked within my neurodivergence with great empathy and understanding. I'd highly recommend her to anyone who needs some quality coaching
sarah
She has supported me to gain unexpected insights and constructively challenged me about assumptions I didn't realise I was making. She's helped me identify what I can change and supported me on my path to acceptance
amanda
The biggest relief from the sessions is realising that not everything is down to me, and everyone else struggles with the same things to some degree, so I don't need to put so much pressure on myself with expectations. I'm very grateful for Natalie's time and support
katrina
Our sessions felt like I was talking to a friend who just so happened to be extremely emotionally intelligent and know everything about how my brain works. I never felt judged. Her approach was very human and helped me feel like I was talking to another person, not just a professional
Not ready for that yet? I'm building out free resources too, starting with a workbook on untangling shame.
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The Roadmap to Body Confidence & Self-Love is a self-paced online video course that helps you do exactly that. Inside, you'll find short, powerful video lessons, mindset-shifting tools, and gentle guidance to help you feel more comfortable, confident, and kind to yourself.
If you'd rather watch and listen than sit down with a workbook, this is the same journey in a different format. Everything's broken into short lessons you can dip in and out of, so it fits around a brain that doesn't always have it in it to sit and write things out.
Prefer Courses...The Roadmap to Body Confidence & Self Love Online Course
As part of my ADHD work, I've noticed how many women I speak to also struggle with body image, and that was true for me too. I know from personal experience how closely body image struggles can connect to ADHD, and that's exactly why I created The Roadmap to Body Confidence & Self-Love.
It's built from the exact steps that helped me work through my own body image struggles, having lived with body dysmorphia and disordered eating myself, in a way my brain could actually understand and that genuinely lasted, not just a quick fix that faded after a few weeks. I wanted to share that with other women too, in something simple, practical, and that wouldn't break the bank.
Struggling with Body Image?
Other things I think you'll be interested in...
For the moments when your emotions take over your mood, your confidence, and your day.
These are short, honest episodes designed to help you feel calmer, clearer, and less stuck in your head. We talk about shame, rejection sensitivity, masking, and why the emotional side of ADHD can feel so intense, along with simple, realistic ways to respond differently, without forcing positivity or pretending it's simple when it isn't.
The ADHD Ripple Podcast (coming soon)
If body image, food, or how you see yourself in the mirror are part of how this shows up for you, it might be worth a look.
- You learn better by watching and listening than by writing things down
- You want to work through this in short bursts, not one long sitting
- A comment about how you look can stay with you for days
- You've tried self-care routines that work for a week, then fall apart entirely
- You'd rather press play than pick up a pen
If you find your mind replaying conversations, snapping then spiralling into guilt, or swinging between holding it all together and completely falling apart, you'll feel at home here. We also explore how things like all-or-nothing thinking, people pleasing, and body image can tangle up with ADHD too, so you can start understanding yourself, not fighting yourself.
