The Natalie Trusdale Blog: self-esteem building articles for your growth

We all like to make sure others are ok and be helpful, but when we are people pleasing often it can begin to create a discomfort, where you slowly realise you don’t quite know who you are anymore. Not in a dramatic, identity-crisis way. More in a quieter sense, that you’ve become very good at […]

For many people, putting yourself first sounds simple in theory and deeply uncomfortable in practice. Do you feel tired, stretched, or in need of rest? You might even know exactly what would help. And yet, choosing yourself can bring up guilt, hesitation, or a quiet sense that you’re doing something wrong. This isn’t because you […]

Social comparison is something most of us do automatically, often without even noticing. It can happen while scrolling, when you catch your reflection in a shop window, or when you’re standing next to someone and suddenly become acutely aware of your own body. One small moment, and your attention shifts. You start assessing. Measuring. Judging. […]

Social media has become such a normal part of everyday life that we rarely stop to question what it’s doing to us. Whether it’s the first thing you check in the morning, something you scroll through on a break at work, or what you reach for in the evening when you’re tired and switching off, […]

When intimacy feels hard, it’s easy to assume that there is something is wrong with their relationship. Or worse, something is wrong with them. But intimacy isn’t just about attraction, chemistry, or communication skills. It’s about safety. It’s about how safe you feel to be seen, known, wanted, and received, emotionally and physically. And that […]

“Love yourself” is one of the most common pieces of advice we hear. And one of the least helpful. Because when you already feel not good enough, self-critical, or unsure of your worth, being told to “just love yourself” can feel vague at best and shaming at worst, as if there’s yet another thing you’re […]

Most conversations about body image focus on how we feel about ourselves in isolation, what we think when we look in the mirror, how we judge our appearance, or how we feel when we see photos of ourselves. But body image doesn’t stay contained inside us. It quietly shapes how we show up in our […]

Body confidence is often treated like a finish line you reach once you finally like your reflection. You tell yourself, If I lose this weight… if I tone up… if I fix this one area… then I’ll feel confident. So you set a goal, change something about your appearance, wait for the confidence to show […]

You’re in a fitting room. The lighting’s harsh. Three sizes of the same jeans hang on the hook because no two brands seem to agree. You pull one pair up, too tight. The next feels baggy. You sigh, stare at the tag, and feel the familiar knot in your stomach. That small square of fabric […]

You finally sit down.Hot tea in hand, your favorite blanket pulled over your lap, a new book read and waiting, and then it hits. The self-care guilt. That voice. Shouldn’t I be doing something right now?Is this lazy? Am I just being selfish? Sound familiar? If you’re feeling guilty for taking time for yourself, you’re […]